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Grace Filled Speech

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Our words hold great power. They set the tone of our homes and lives. They hold more weight than we would like to admit.

Grace Filled Speech

Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.

Colossians 4:6 NASB

I love word studies, digging into the meanings, which is done a lot in this post. Just a warning, but I think it’s well worth it.

What do you think of when you hear the word ‘grace’? The word used for ‘grace’ in the above verse is Charis,  which is translated:

    1. grace

      1. that which affords joy, pleasure, delight, sweetness, charm, loveliness: grace of speech

    2. good will, loving-kindness, favour

      1. of the merciful kindness by which God, exerting his holy influence upon souls, turns them to Christ, keeps, strengthens, increases them in Christian faith, knowledge, affection, and kindles them to the exercise of the Christian virtues

    3. what is due to grace

      1. the spiritual condition of one governed by the power of divine grace

      2. the token or proof of grace, benefit

        1. a gift of grace

        2. benefit, bounty

    4. thanks, (for benefits, services, favours), recompense, reward

If  anyone thinks  himself to be religious,  and yet does not bridle his tongue but deceives  his own heart, this man’s religion is worthless.                       James 1:26

We are going to break this down a bit.
The word for ‘religious’ used here means to fear or worship God.
Let’s talk about that bridle for a minute. That word, chalinagōgeō, means :

  1. to lead by a bridle, to guide

  2. to bridle, hold in check, restrain

A bridle is not something that magically appears on a horse. It has to be put on.

This man’s religious worship is…

Mataios, which is: devoid of force, truth, success, result.

If we are not intentionally guiding or holding our tongue in check, our worship is devoid of truth.


What we say if we call ourselves Christ followers matters. Why?

The Bible commands it.

Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.
Ephesians 4:29

Sapros, the word used here for unwholesome means:

  1. rotten, putrefied

  2. corrupted by one and no longer fit for use, worn out

  3. of poor quality, bad, unfit for use, worthless

And that word for grace? Yup, charis. In this case, benefit.

Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.
But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints; and there must be no filthiness and silly talk, or coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks.
Ephesians 5:1-4 (italics mine)

Aischrotēs, the word for filthiness, is translated obscenity, filthiness.

Mōrologia, silly, is translated foolish talking.

Coarse jesting is the word eutrapelia, which  translates to scurrility (making offensively rude or abusive remarks), ribaldry (ribald meaning obscene, vulgar, coarse) and low jesting.

These things are not fitting for Christ followers who are admonished to be imitators of God, offering our lives as a fragrant sacrifice to God.

Our speech is a telling reflection of our what is in our hearts. The soil of our hearts bears fruit into our lives.

“For each tree is known by its own fruit. For men do not gather figs from thorns, nor do they pick grapes from a briar bush. The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart.”
Luke 6:44-45

Is you speech full of that which affords joy, pleasure, delight, sweetness, charm, loveliness? Does it benefit those who listen? Would someone listening to you talk know that you are different?

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21 thoughts on “Grace Filled Speech

  1. Robbi, we are kindred spirits! I adore words, and word studies. “Our speech is a telling reflection of our what is in our hearts. The soil of our hearts bears fruit into our lives.” One of the best lessons we can take to heart and also teach our children because I believe our speech is one of the things that sets us apart in this world…for the glory of Christ! You should share your passion for words on Fresh Market Friday! You could be the next Featured Fresh Find! Crystal~

  2. Hello Robbi,
    Thank you so much for this post.
    Our words can build-up or tear down. Therefore, as children of God we should use our words carefully to build others up.
    Have a blessed weekend.

  3. Robbi – I will often do word studies too. The Scripture tell us that Life and Death are in the Power of our tongue – we must be very careful what we say – it really does matter what we say. I love how you pointed out that what we say is a telling reflection of our heart – it is so true and Scripture even tells us that too. Thanks for sharing at #FreshMarketFriday where we are neighbors

  4. Thank you for sharing this helpful word study with us on the Art of Home-Making Mondays at Strangers & Pilgrims on Earth! We hope to have you share today for the new link up this week!

  5. This is a good word, Robbi! May everyone who calls themselves a Christ-follower make sure their speech is seasoned with grace.
    Thanks for sharing at The Loft today.

  6. Yikes! A very convicting (in a good way) post! I’m glad I ran across your blog on The Loft linkup. Blessings!
    Beckie from Spotlight,

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